If you ever happen to make someone uncomfortable with your actions, they'd most likely make use of their Block list by putting your username on it. I assure you that most people will put your username in their Blocked Users list and let it sit there for a while. Or even permanently, because some people get really upset from this kind of behavior. So be mindful of how you communicate!
Maybe when we were little kids, we could make friends just by asking or by being cute or having something that someone else wanted (Remember "Hey I'll be your best friend if you give me that!" ?) but that is not how friendships are formed here. There are boundaries here that are not meant to be crossed without the proper permissions.
Here are some tips to make friends with most people.
1. Common interests. These always bring people together, it gives something to talk about. I personally like things like Pokemon, animals, and video games for example. But just because you share interests doesn't mean that it automatically makes you a friend. You have to talk about it at the right time, and not just randomly. Which brings me to the next point:
2. Tact. Even if you have good intentions, no one wants to see tons of messages, +fav-bombs, and notes from one random person. Have a little finesse and calm yourself down. Instead of rushing to comment on everything they make with one word comments like "cute", actually stop and look at something. Think about it, study it for a bit. And leave a nice detailed comment on what you specifically like about it. I assure you that those special comments we get on here stand out and stay with us for a while. Cookie-cutter comments, even in large volume, remain as a nice gesture... but helpful, time-taking comments are certainly seen as a sentiment.
The concept of needing tact also applies to being overly hyper, excited, paranoid, depressive, etc. in your comments or other messages and communication with someone. While these are common and normal human feelings (in moderation), doing them often they may make you seem as an unstable individual (which most people try to stay away from!). What I'm trying to say is, simply calm down and be yourself. Constant overzealousness and excessive enthusiasm can sometimes make you appear to be annoying, obnoxious, or obsessive. And you definitely don't want that!
3. Respecting boundaries. There is a difference between being genuinely friendly, and prying into personal stuff you're not supposed to be in. Be kind and considerate, but don't try to get more information than someone is willing to share.
Example- random watcher sends this note:
"Hi, I just wanted to check up on you, you seemed to be down after that last drawing you made. I hope you're ok, please feel better soon! Here's a hug "
-This is a nice message, and doesn't pry into business that isn't theirs. If I received a message like this, I would think, "Wow, what a thoughtful person." And I would respect them for respecting my boundaries. I personally would probably thank them later when I was feeling better. Maybe even with a drawing.
"OMG what's rong?!?! WHO DID THAT TO YOU, I'm going to kick their butt and flame them! Man ppl are just so mean, I totally know how you feel!!"
-This message bothers me because it's prying by asking (rudely, mind you) what is wrong, also a call to action that they don't even understand, AND they're saying they can empathize, even though they know nothing of the situation. I would not reply to this message, and most likely see the sender as an obnoxious or immature person.
Another thing to mention about boundaries is roleplaying. You know, that little *hugs you* or -waves hello- thing that some people do. Often times, it is seen as a cute or friendly gesture. But, some people are made uncomfortable by it, so always make sure that someone is all right with it before doing so. You most likely wouldn't hug or nuzzle a random person you pass by on the street, so be thoughtful in how you do it here. Chances are it's fine in moderation.
4. Sheer luck. You don't become friends intentionally most of the time, you just talk and learn things about each other until you learn so much and enjoy their company so much you consider them a friend and they you. It just happens unconsciously, you can't force it along. And, by trying to force it, usually you never become a friend with them- because they'll remember how you've acted and it will basically be a friendship "turn-off" ingrained in their mind about you... possibly even making them avoid you indefinitely.
5. There's so many more things, why do I even need to spell them out for you? Friendship comes naturally, by being yourself! And if you're not making friends you want, then have you ever thought that you're the problem? Some people just don't "click", and they never will. If this happens, you must accept it and move on. Don't try and force things.
This has been a public service announcement from Amber. Have a wonderful day!